CruiseĮveryone used to know to glance over your shoulder after three steps if you were interested in that sexy stranger on the sidewalk. And it will put you in touch with the brave bottle throwers who started the Stonewall Riots back in the day. But one night when the femme is in total control will never make you fear it again. "No fems," has been branded into all of our mentality. So many gay men are afraid of even the slightest bit of swish being detected. It will it unleash a personality you didn't even know you had in you and it will make you OK with femininity. Dress in dragĮven if it's just once for Halloween, go out in the world wearing the clothing of the opposite gender. Just pick one, and never ever ever ever leave her. The diva of choice doesn't need to be one of the familiar one-named ladies of song (Madonna, Cher, Judy, Liza, Barbra, Mariah, Gaga, and both Bettes), it can be anyone from Joni Mitchell to Courtney Love, Diana Vreeland to Patsy Stone, Hilary Clinton to Michelle Obama. Having a strong female icon is somehow central to the gay identity (for more on that, pick up Halperin's book) and harkens back to the darkest days of gay identity when these troubled broads were the closest thing you could find to a representation of gay life. So in this age of mainstreaming, where gay men come out of the closet not to attend dinner parties of catty queens like themselves and the cast of Boys in the Band but to a room of welcoming members of society both straight and gay, how can we form a culture of our own? If there are a million ways to be gay, can we settle on a few key experiences every gay man should experience to draw them together?Įveryone needs a Kylie, even if you think Time Bomb is kind of a crappy song. It's a mode of perception, an attitude, an ethos: in short, it is a practice." As the New York Times review of his book points out, the thing that really brings gay people together is their culture.
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In his new book, How to Be Gay, professor David M Halperin says: "Gayness is not a state or condition.
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Gay men and women don't share a place of origin, skin color, socio-economic class, religion, or anything else that would typify their experience. Dishing out gay cards is like telling people they aren't allowed to be gay because they haven't seen the requisite number of Glee episodes.īut, then again, maybe they gay community needs some sort of shared experience – outside of the experience of falling in love with a member of the same sex – to bring us together. There are as many ways to be gay as there are colors in the rainbow (now who is being easy and glib?). The other day when I tweeted my distaste for the latest Kylie Minogue single (a form of sacrilege in some circles) one of my followers replied with one of my least favorite phrases: "We're going to revoke your gay card." Not only is this trite rejoinder (thanks to Ellen DeGeneres, we've been joking about earning toasters for nearly 15 years now) but it maintains the illusion that one must like certain things in order to be gay.
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